The Mighty If!

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I have no idea how I only noticed this just now, but the Imam in Ms. Marvel has the same name as the Imam from my mosque growing up (also the Imam who performed the first of ‘San and my weddings).

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I think the biggest turn on is knowing you turned someone else on.

Literally the best feeling.

Wow, as a woman who has been cat-called and hit on, I don’t give a good goddamn whether I turned someone else on unless it was by mutual consent. And it really doesn’t turn me on AT ALL for complete strangers to let me know that I turned them on.

Hell, I don’t even care if I turn my husband or partner on if, in the moment, I’m angry at them about something.  That makes me feel objectified: I’m mad at you and all you can think of is that I’m turning you on while I’m mad?  Ooooh, am I cute when I’m angry?  That’s patronizing.

I don’t think that makes you an alien (referring to your “i am an alien” tag for this post). I reblogged the sentiment because it resonates for me, but just because I think it’s a great feeling doesn’t mean it a great feeling all the time and in all contexts. It just means that the conversational assumptions I was making were different from yours. I’m talking about the potential of the feeling in the right circumstances when I reblog it. It’s like if I reblog a picture of a bowl of poutine and say “OMG SO GOOD,” it doesn’t mean that I want a stranger to run up to me on the street and shove a bowl of poutine down my throat, or that I want a partner to turn to me when I’m angry with them and say, “Just have some poutine and get over it,” or even that I want poutine all the time. It just means that when I’m hungry for poutine and I  have it, it’s really amazing for me. Similarly, when I want turn someone on (and they want to be turned on by me) and I can do so, it’s really amazing for me.

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The body tasked with rating films for screening in the United States has given a film about an aging gay couple and their extended families an R-rating in a sign that the Motion Picture Association of America (MPAA) may itself have fallen behind community standards.

The MPAA gave Love Is Strange, starring John Lithgow and Alfred Molina as a couple who have been together for four decades but who are forced to move in with their families, the rating supposedly for ‘language’ used in the film – though many are saying the decision is just plain homophobic.

There are no nude scenes in Love Is Strange, no drug use, and no sex scenes. The raciest the film gets is two scenes where Molina and Lithgow are asleep in the same bed while fully clothed.

The MPAA has been called out over the issue by New Jersey Star-Ledger film reviewer Stephen Whitty who noted two other films released this month that got the same rating.

‘On Friday, “Sin City: A Dame to Kill For” will be released in a wide number of theaters. It features nudity, sexual situations and substance abuse,’ Whitty wrote in a column posted online yesterday.

‘Every woman in it is a stripper, a prostitute or a murderer. There is violence and graphic gore, including one scene of a man having his eye plucked out and another of a man having his fingers broken with a pliers. It is rated R.

‘That day, “Jersey Shore Massacre” also reaches theaters. It features nudity, sexual situations, substance abuse and ethnic and racial slurs. There is violence and graphic gore, including one scene of a woman being disemboweled, another of a naked woman getting her breasts sliced open and one of a man having his hands fed into a wood chipper. It is rated R.’

‘If there’s an equivalence among these three films, and their equal unsuitability for anyone under 17, it’s lost on me — and, I suspect, on anyone but the censors at the MPAA.’

Whitty said it would be unthinkable that the film would have been given an R-rating had it starred veteran actors Robert Duval and Jane Fonda as an aging straight couple in the same situation.

‘This is a gentle, if often heartbreaking story about two loving men in a long-time committed relationship,’ Whitty wrote, ‘What on earth is in it that so horrifies the MPAA? I’m sorry. I think I just answered my own question.’

Under the MPAA rating system an R-rating implies that a film ‘contains some adult material [and] parents are urged to learn more about the film before taking their young children with them.

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I have nooo idea what that is!


In its simplest description, it’s french fries and cheese curds and gravy. However, done properly, it all melds together into a little plate of heaven.

I actually made poutine for dinner for fatadditives the other day which didn’t *quite* turn out perfectly because I was too busy talking to really do the cheese-melting stage properly, but I have enough of all the ingredients left over that I’ll probably make another batch of it for myself over the weekend. :)

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